Imagining yourself standing in the mirror with a six-pack? I do, quite often, to be honest. Currently, I am working on losing some weight. Reaching that six-pack is a goal that I have set for myself.
If you are a little into fitness and nutrition, you know the requirements for having a six-pack. Low body fat and strong muscles. The strong muscles are not the issue for me; I am pretty well-trained. For me, the problem is the part with the body fat. Training hard never has been an issue; for me, nutrition is the hard thing. I am eating very healthy, but if I boil it down, I just overeat.
So, to get a six-pack, I have to continuously eat less to reach a calorie deficit. There is an easy way; just eat nothing or very little. Taking this road, I would get my six-pack faster, stand in front of the mirror, look at my six-pack for a minute, tick that goal, and probably would have not learned anything.
The quick hack gets you to the goal faster and easier. But not very sustainable and healthy. That six-pack will be gone as quickly as it came, as eating nothing is not really sustainable for your body and not suitable for your muscles.
And the worst part, the journey sucks. How long do I have to stop eating to reach that body fat percentage? Is it a week, is it a month, is it even longer? I will be annoyed, I will be stressed, I won't be having any energy. I will be annoying to everyone around me. Standing in the front of the mirror with a six-pack will have cost me a lot, and I won't be able to enjoy the goal that I reached.
The point where you reach your destination is gone in a blink of an eye, whereas the journey can take forever. Doesn't it make therefore sense to enjoy the journey?
Adapting your lifestyle and building new skills and habits along the way doesn't only make the journey more enjoyable, your destination will also be way more sustainable.
I worked out a plan together with my girlfriend on how we both can achieve the goal of reducing our body fat and eventually getting a six-pack. That plan consists of trying new things, new recipes, tracking food, spending more woke time together, and slowing down while eating. This sounds way more enjoyable than just doing a crazy fasting week (or month). This can change our whole life, as we are learning sustainable habits without depriving ourselves. This leads us to enjoy more aware time together.
Now we have spent some time looking at the outside, let's take a more in-depth look at the mental level. I'll also use another example, as I don't want you to imagine me in front of the mirror all the time.
Let's say you want to build a side business and have a specific revenue or customer in mind while doing so. If you are not focusing on the journey and only on the goal you will be chasing. Instead of building healthy habits and routines to enjoy your life and your business, you will live in a constant rush. And you will be chasing all of your life without ever enjoying what you are actually doing. That moment of success when you reach the figure in your head will be over in a blink of an eye, and then the next goal appears on the horizon. To me, that sounds like failure.
Another issue focusing only on the outcome are the surrounding people. If you annoy them all the time along your journey, they will have a hard time celebrating your success with you.
Focus on the journey, focus on enjoying life at the moment, focus on enjoying your work, and don't hunt for the outcome that may never come.